The shorter version of that with no Star Brat is the way to go. A MUST for ME3 is going to be the MEHEM (Mass Effect Happy Ending Mod). I like the Tali romance mod (adds nudity), Miranda Mod (allows her to join Normandy in ME3), and a few others which restore cut content, or up the quality of the content by adding more. After that its individual texture mods if you don't like something in the packs. Many of my mods (Under the name DeadMeat) I made are used in other mod packs. Nexusmods has everything out there that I know of. Past that, it would depend on what you want. Those are probably the two big ones to do for ME2 and ME3.

The big ones are the 'ALOT' mods and the MExRecalibrated mods.

So here's where I am with getting this mod to work:

The troubleshooting section of the description on that mod page references this issue for newer (2008+) AMD CPUs, so I followed the fix there to rename/delete the 'LocalShaderCache-PC-D3D-SM3.upk' file from both 'CookedPC' folders in your Documents folder and from the game's install directory, but that file doesn't exist in the game's install directory for me, only in my Documents folder (which I went ahead and renamed and it did fix the crappy looking clothes and Earth texture on the main menu, but Shep is still missing his face texture on the character creation menu). Now the games textures are all jacked up and missing starting with the character creation screen at the beginning as there's no textures on Shep's face. I searched and found this MEUITM mod installer that updates all the textures and stuff, but I'm having issues getting it to work properly initially I got some render errors upon launching the game, but I figured out I can fix that just by deleting/renaming the 'BIOEngine.ini' file in the ME Config folder (the one in your documents folder, not in the game files). But its fixes doesn't seem to apply to the game for whatever reason. I have Flawless Widescreen installed as it seems highly recommended and helped me with Wolfenstein TNO as well. Initially I installed my Steam copy just to make sure it would run alright on Win10 and my setup, which it did run albeit of course it doesn't support my 21:9 ultrawide properly (cuts off the top/bottom of the menus to fill the horizontal space), as expected. So despite having a nice backlog of other highly rated games I could be playing, I want to play through the ME games again and thought I should at least update the graphics a bit since there's plenty of mods available to do so. I played them all on PC right around the time ME3 launched so it was perfect timing then. I've only played through the ME games once despite them being one of my favorite series. Calling Dan_D, our resident ME SME, or anyone else who has modded ME reliably before.

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